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Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles: How it can be Pivotal
Los Angeles Boudoir Photography
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Why I think Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles can be a Pivotal Experience
Speaking from personal experience, boudoir has been extremely therapeutic for me. That is a large reason why I wanted to do Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles, in hopes that I would be able to do help other women in the same way. This is two-fold for me: surviving sexual assault and seemingly insurmountable insecurities arising largely from white beauty standards.
I went to high school in Boulder, Colorado. If you’ve ever been, I am sure you know just how little diversity exists there. I moved there when I was almost 10 from England, where the population is more diverse. So, when I got to Colorado and there was not the same representation, it was a culture shock to say the least. Then when I started middle school, none of my peers would talk to me since I was the only brown kid. At the time, I did not know exactly what racism was and that it was why no one would talk to me. So, I blamed my body creating an unhealthy relationship with my body.
When I got to high school, this relationship only deteriorated and somewhere along the way thought that my beauty and worth derived from my body rather than who I was. I sent boys “nudes,” granted I was never actually entirely naked, but still I was far too young to be doing this.
One of these times, the boy started showing his friends and they got around. Now, in hindsight, I am astounded that he would have the audacity to do that, but then I felt ashamed and insecure and so self-conscious. And then, I went through numerous assault experiences that ranged in severity but made me feel uncomfortable in my own skin and as if men felt they were entitled to my body.
In college, I did some serious work on myself, shoutout to my therapist Lori (who is amazing). But it was really hard unlearning all of that trauma and repairing my confidence. If I am honest, I am still doing this work. But somewhere along the way, a couple of my best friends and I did each other’s boudoir photography in Los Angeles, and this made such a massive difference. Suddenly, anytime I was feeling insecure, I could look back at these photos and feel beautiful. And these photographs were just for me.
These photographs were more impactful, for me, because I was in my underwear. I wasn’t hiding my body or “flaws” behind fabric, but rather embracing all of my stretch marks, fat rolls, pimples, you name it. And still with all of those out, I still felt so powerful and beautiful.
If you have been assaulted and need support, please contact RAINN.
This is why I think boudoir photography in Los Angeles, a city that prides itself on freedom, is a must do for every woman.
Those boudoir photos were taken years ago now, but to this day I still look at them when I am feeling insecure. Nothing has even been able to get me out of a flunk the way my boudoir photographs have. That is why I started a doing boudoir photography in Los Angeles. My goal has always been to make other women feel confident and improve their internal confidence.
This is why I firmly believe everyone deserves a photographer who will hold their hand along the way and be their personal hype woman. If you are looking to do boudoir photography in Los Angeles, you will have numerous options. It is important to find a boudoir photographer who is right for you.
This is an intimate experience, and you deserve the best experience possible. In part because there are so many different reasons and ways to do boudoir. It could be pin-up boudoir, as a gift, for your groom’s gift, it could be maternity boudoir, etc. Now, I think those are all stellar reasons to do boudoir photography in Los Angeles and I am all for it being a gift to your significant other. However, I think boudoir photography should primarily be a gift to yourself first.
But I believe that first and foremost, your boudoir photography session should be for YOU. To empower you, embolden you, put that pep in your step. Truly, seeing yourself and your body through the cameras lens is so different than looking in the mirror. And those boudoir photographs will give you so much confidence. Your photographer should care about your experience and comfort above anything else.
One last thing…I often hear “well I’ll do my boudoir session once I lose some weight and more confident.” Personally I think that is a copout. Yes, you might be more confident later on, so do another boudoir session then. But a large part of the experience is learning to embrace your body and where you are right now. Because your body is beautiful the way it is. And you should thank your body because it has done its best to take care of you thIs far. Boudoir photography in Los Angeles can be a truly, life altering experience.
Next week I am going to be sharing more reasons why choosing the right Boudoir photographer in Los Angeles matters. And what are the most important questions to ask them.
More Resources to Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles:
What exactly is Boudoir? Read here!
What should I wear to my Boudoir session? Read here!
Here are some of my favorite Boudoir photographs I’ve ever taken. So that you can get a feel for what your experience with boudoir photography in Los Angeles could be like!
Table of Contents
Why I think Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles can be a Pivotal Experience
Speaking from personal experience, boudoir has been extremely therapeutic for me. That is a large reason why I wanted to do Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles, in hopes that I would be able to do help other women in the same way. This is two-fold for me: surviving sexual assault and seemingly insurmountable insecurities arising largely from white beauty standards.
I went to high school in Boulder, Colorado. If you’ve ever been, I am sure you know just how little diversity exists there. I moved there when I was almost 10 from England, where the population is more diverse. So, when I got to Colorado and there was not the same representation, it was a culture shock to say the least. Then when I started middle school, none of my peers would talk to me since I was the only brown kid. At the time, I did not know exactly what racism was and that it was why no one would talk to me. So, I blamed my body creating an unhealthy relationship with my body.
When I got to high school, this relationship only deteriorated and somewhere along the way thought that my beauty and worth derived from my body rather than who I was. I sent boys “nudes,” granted I was never actually entirely naked, but still I was far too young to be doing this.
One of these times, the boy started showing his friends and they got around. Now, in hindsight, I am astounded that he would have the audacity to do that, but then I felt ashamed and insecure and so self-conscious. And then, I went through numerous assault experiences that ranged in severity but made me feel uncomfortable in my own skin and as if men felt they were entitled to my body.
In college, I did some serious work on myself, shoutout to my therapist Lori (who is amazing). But it was really hard unlearning all of that trauma and repairing my confidence. If I am honest, I am still doing this work. But somewhere along the way, a couple of my best friends and I did each other’s boudoir photography in Los Angeles, and this made such a massive difference. Suddenly, anytime I was feeling insecure, I could look back at these photos and feel beautiful. And these photographs were just for me.
These photographs were more impactful, for me, because I was in my underwear. I wasn’t hiding my body or “flaws” behind fabric, but rather embracing all of my stretch marks, fat rolls, pimples, you name it. And still with all of those out, I still felt so powerful and beautiful.
If you have been assaulted and need support, please contact RAINN.
This is why I think boudoir photography in Los Angeles, a city that prides itself on freedom, is a must do for every woman.
Those boudoir photos were taken years ago now, but to this day I still look at them when I am feeling insecure. Nothing has even been able to get me out of a flunk the way my boudoir photographs have. That is why I started a doing boudoir photography in Los Angeles. My goal has always been to make other women feel confident and improve their internal confidence.
This is why I firmly believe everyone deserves a photographer who will hold their hand along the way and be their personal hype woman. If you are looking to do boudoir photography in Los Angeles, you will have numerous options. It is important to find a boudoir photographer who is right for you.
This is an intimate experience, and you deserve the best experience possible. In part because there are so many different reasons and ways to do boudoir. It could be pin-up boudoir, as a gift, for your groom’s gift, it could be maternity boudoir, etc. Now, I think those are all stellar reasons to do boudoir photography in Los Angeles and I am all for it being a gift to your significant other. However, I think boudoir photography should primarily be a gift to yourself first.
But I believe that first and foremost, your boudoir photography session should be for YOU. To empower you, embolden you, put that pep in your step. Truly, seeing yourself and your body through the cameras lens is so different than looking in the mirror. And those boudoir photographs will give you so much confidence. Your photographer should care about your experience and comfort above anything else.
One last thing…I often hear “well I’ll do my boudoir session once I lose some weight and more confident.” Personally I think that is a copout. Yes, you might be more confident later on, so do another boudoir session then. But a large part of the experience is learning to embrace your body and where you are right now. Because your body is beautiful the way it is. And you should thank your body because it has done its best to take care of you thIs far. Boudoir photography in Los Angeles can be a truly, life altering experience.
Next week I am going to be sharing more reasons why choosing the right Boudoir photographer in Los Angeles matters. And what are the most important questions to ask them.
More Resources to Boudoir Photography in Los Angeles:
What exactly is Boudoir? Read here!
What should I wear to my Boudoir session? Read here!
Here are some of my favorite Boudoir photographs I’ve ever taken. So that you can get a feel for what your experience with boudoir photography in Los Angeles could be like!
If you are interested in the ELI Boudoir experience, please click here.
If you have any lingering questions about boudoir, or the boudoir photoshoots or what your experience with ELI Boudoir would be like, you can email me at info@eliboudoir.com or text me at 213-513-6088!
